This is a simple question that most people fail to ask themselves if they still want to get back with their ex.  Sadly, most individuals like to play the victim role in a relationship amd they feel that if anyone needs to change it is their ex lover. They don’t take any responsibility for why the happy relationship failed. However, this type of thinking will never help you in learning how to get your ex back adequately.  The most appropriate posture to have is a willingness to lay it all down.  You may be confused about what I mean when I say this.  in more simplier terms, you should make every attempt to forget about the mistakes of the past and be willing to start over fresh with your ex boyfriend or girlfriend.  When this happens in your heart, you are ready to restore the love between you and your ex.